How to Overcome Five Internal Challenges

One internal struggle I deal with is the hate from the political divide in America. It’s got to the point where I don’t even want to discuss politics with anybody. Nobody is going to agree on everything. Having a different point of view makes you the bad guy. Politics means nothing when we fight over our differences. There are ways to overcome our internal struggles.

Against the Clock

1. Caught up with the label

I’m done with the labels dividing people. Labels seek to define who you are without knowing the full picture. It generalizes things based on your political, religious beliefs, music preference, etc. A label doesn’t tell you what’s in a person’s heart. My curious, skeptical mind and the love within my heart define me. The search for truth and bringing people together is what drives me.

  • Challenge ideas together and don’t stop searching for truth.
  • Don’t judge others. If we’re not searching, we’re not learning.
  • Learn from history. Explore how the U.S. Constitution and Bill of Rights protect our individual freedoms. 
  • Discuss ideas beyond politics and religion. Ask questions like ‘Where does love come from in humanity? Is all that love in our hearts meaningless? Do we go through amazing things in life to become a speck of dust?’
  • Be kind to others but don’t care what others think of you. It will drag you down to a dark place.

2. Raw truth

How many times do we hold back important, tough things that we need to tell people? I like it when people are straightforward and don’t sugar coat what they say. I’m cool with the fact that the truth can hurt. I’d rather people tell me the tough truth right away. It doesn’t do anybody any good to hold off on the truth.

  • Be real and say what’s on your mind. Say what you mean and do what you say.
  • The Harsh reality is better than a fake fantasyland.
  • Let go of certain expectations you have for people. Sometimes we expect people to act a certain way and get frustrated when they don’t do what we expect.
  • Don’t think you need control over every situation. It’s better to have control of how we respond to situations that don’t go our way.
  • Take the time to get to know someone on a deeper level.

3. Mutual understanding

There is a drive to have people understand you and agree with you. I got different political views than a lot of people around me. I want a person who doesn’t understand my view to understand why I believe that way.

  • You don’t need to convince people your way of thinking is better. Our differences are what make us human. Learn about a person’s story and where your story connects with theirs.
  • Focus on exploring how to become a better person and find meaning in life.
  • Be who you want to be and do what’s honorable. Don’t worry about fitting in. Look for ways to love one another again. Martin Luther King Jr. died to teach us that.
  • Don’t overreact to things people say. Not everybody is open to discussing ideas different from their own.
  • Listen to what someone has to say. Discuss an idea and see where it leads. Look beyond ideas you can’t agree on.

4. Patience

The world seems to move at a faster rate or on a different frequency than me. It appears that everybody has lived ten great lives while my life goes at a slower pace. I wonder if disappointment is trying to teach me something important. My brain is like an overloaded circuit. It processes to too much information at once until it needs a reboot.

  • Don’t ever compare your life to others. Great things don’t always happen as quickly as we want them to. Stay optimistic, do the best we can, and focused on our goals.
  • There is nothing we can’t-do when we put our minds to it. The negative things we say about ourselves are never accurate.
  • Every day is a chance to become a better a person. Trusting yourself and staying determined will get where you need to go.
  • Don’t assume what others are thinking. It will damage your mind.
  • Disappointment is not a symbol of our worth. We can learn from it. Never give up.

5. Amazing

I think about how to write an awesome blog article and end up obsessing over it. Procrastination took over. I want to bring the world wisdom as if the next day is the last. The problem is I have no idea where to start.

  • Your amazing ideas need a chance to build through practice.
  • Work to the deadline or you will start obsessing over the details.
  • You don’t need to make a bunny jump out of the hat with every word. Write what’s in your heart.
  • The goal is to encourage one person, everything won’t be a masterpiece.
  • Let your passion for the work guide you to the finish line.

What are some internal challenges you face on a regular basis? What have you learned from them?

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Five Strategies to Overcome Writing Struggles

I’m stuck on repeat like the Twilight Zone. Screw you, Mr. Groundhog! Every time I reach out for my goals in front of me they get pulled further from my grasp.

It’s high school graduation day. I’m driving my wheelchair through the huge checker’s board of Warriors red. My back is sweating and throat is constricting. I see lots of smiles around me. The excitement is building. A deep sense of dread consumes me.

The mind starts racing. A strong force holds back the words deep within our heart. Writing is our greatest joy. Yet, the words stop flowing. There are a few strategies that can help get our writing groove back.

Storm in Slovakia Mountains

 

1. Calm the raging storm within

 

Anxiety starts getting a tighter grip on you. We’re surfing the web instead of writing. The perfectionist mindset takes over. No word is good enough.

Deja vu fears play into our fear of missing out like a bloodthirsty vampire. Your life is not as exciting as your friend’s life. Try swimming with the sharks minus the cage.

The false sense of urgency is a sign of twisted priorities. That TV show can wait. The crazy, homicidal bitch in the water well can crawl out through your TV any minute. Limit your time on the TV and the Web to fight the anxiety.

What activities awaken your soul and calm your mind?

That’s reading and writing for me. Choose the activity that fills your heart with a sense of purpose and brings your life meaning.

You are right where you need to be. Any routine that keeps your pen moving is a gift. Don’t ever give your passion the backseat.

 

2. Bare your heart until it hurts

 

Tear open your heart to find the truth on the page. Fear must be challenged. Your potential shines brighter every step you take through the fear. Pain from your past can come back for vengeance like a Japanese horror flick.

Writing through the pain breathes new life into your writing. Pain is the greatest motivator to become the hero of our story. The world is waiting for our story.

Writing is an amazing life compass that helps navigate through life’s obstacles. Our inner battle rages on so we can become a light within the darkness. It’s on the precipice of despair when we discover our incredible strength within.

 

3. Follow through with the idea

 

How many times have you written about an idea only to question its quality?

It happens to me many times. The writing stops flowing and the deadline falls through. Perfectionism is a silent assassin that strikes without mercy. It breaks down your confidence until your writing loses the passionate fire. All ideas start to look like failures.

Give your heart the freedom to write whatever comes to mind. Experiment with the words. Follow through with the idea and let it develop on the page without interference. Every word you write matters.

Embrace the adventure without the destination in mind. Your instincts will prevail in the end. A rough idea is a blessing in disguise. The perfect idea is an unexpected outcome.

Trust your instincts and watch your writing confidence soar. Our fears have no power over us when we trust in our abilities. Creativity thrives when we allow our instincts lead us.

 

4. Free write to fight doubt

 

Does planning ever create further doubt in your writing abilities?

My mind races like a Formula 1 racecar until the tires spin off their axles. Put aside the outline when the writing stops flowing. A cluttered mind loves to obsess over the details. A plan fuels my obsession with the details. When you get lost in the jungle of words, free write. Let your creativity run wild in any direction it desires. You can go back to the outline the next day.

 

5. Stop trying to bend time to your will

 

You cannot be The Flash.

It would be amazing to never have to fight the clock, wouldn’t it?

A deadline is not your enemy. Time doesn’t move slow or fast. It’s our mind telling us where our focus lies. I’m usually stuck in my own head looking for an escape route.

Let the deadline become your greatest motivation. We all want our best ideas to come to us all at once when we want them to.

Cherish the small victories. The writing will come together in the end. When deadlines slip away, our confidence takes a huge hit. Stick to the deadline to build your confidence back up.

What does your battle plan look like to fight your writing fears? Share in the comments.

 

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How Rejection Can Unleash Our Warrior Spirit

I met a young woman we’ll call Natalie on an online dating site. We seemed to hit it off well. Our conversations over text messages and phone calls went smooth and we shared a lot of laughs. It appeared that we made a strong connection.

We decided to meet up at a local brewery in Lakewood, California. Meeting in person after getting to know a person over the phone and through text messages is scary.

Will she look like who I expect? Will we like each other?

A woman sitting alone

I roll up through the front door in my wheelchair. A rough, tipsy looking dude with a shaggy beard is sitting at a picnic table. Oh man, I better get past this dude quick before he goes crazy on me.

A bench seat blocks my path but it’s no match for my tank. I push it aside and drive towards the front of the place.

I hear a young woman call out, “Hey, Robbie! Over here!”

I turn my chair towards the voice. I see a cute, brunette in a short, black, pink flowered dress sitting next to a guy at a picnic table. Oh no, this can’t be good. She brought a friend.

“Hey, Robbie. How are you? This is Richard. He’s helping me pick out some beer,” says Natalie.

A surge of relief flows through me.

We shared some laughs and good conversation. Topics ranged from how my writing is going to what I thought of her pictures on the dating site.

Natalie’s expressive auburn eyes, pink nails, and large, pink glasses captivated me.

I love the way she squeezes my shoulder when she’s teasing me. And how her fingers brush across my lips as she puts popcorn into my mouth. My heart skips a beat.

The date ends as I roll with her to her car and we share a few kisses. My take is that the date went well.

The next night, I get the dreaded text: “I have to ask you something…” Uh oh! Here it comes. It’s the end.

“I am overwhelmed by you and your strength. I broke down and cried for a while in my car due to the circumstances you face on a daily basis,” she says, burying the hatchet.

Dating is a complicated matter when you have a physical disability. It’s hard for somebody to relate to and deal with sometimes.

Rejection has taught me three valuable life lessons:

1. Rejection builds resilience

The interview for your dream job that you’ve prepared months slips through your fingers. The boss won’t give you that raise. The person you’re dating can’t accept you the way you are.

Rejection constricts your heart until your heart is about to implode. It allows us to unleash our warrior spirit to find better opportunities and relationships.

Knock down the barriers that limit your mindset. Our mind is more powerful than we could ever imagine. Don’t cling to the fear of uncertainty.

Fear is the call to never back down from a challenge.

Rare gems aren’t easy to come by. Look beyond a person’s imperfections to find the beauty within their heart.

You must take a chance to find love and reach your dreams.

Opportunities present themselves when we least expect them to.

The best opportunities are the ones with an uncertain destination.

Stay positive and determined. The beauty you’ll discover will amaze you.

2. Express what’s on your heart without fear

Having a big heart is the best trait to have. It’s the best gauge of our character. It allows us to become a better person. Caring for others isn’t shameful but honorable.

Never be afraid to express yourself to others. You can show vulnerability without looking weak or lacking confidence.

Become more open and honest with yourself and others. That’s how we learn who our real friends are. Don’t wear a mask. You do make a make difference. People need your strength.

Risking heartache is always worth it. Don’t ever let anybody tell you otherwise.

Heartache teaches us a lot about how to fight our insecurities and learn how our mind works.

3. Patience is our greatest ally

Take your time. It will build your confidence. Don’t ever take shortcuts in the dating world.

Don’t over complicate things. Emotions are already churning at a high pace. Give love a chance to build.

What do we have to lose?

It’s easy to get into rush mode where our conversations will suffer.

Rejection teaches us to notice what’s important in life. And, patient with ourselves and others.

Never jump to conclusions or make assumptions. Get familiar with your intuition. Your first instinct is usually the best one.

Don’t break your code of principles because it will backfire on you. Rejection cuts deeper when we go against ourselves.

Don’t be afraid to stay in your element on the first few dates.

What are some important lessons you learned about rejection? Share in the comments.

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