Word of the Day: Trust

Trust is strong word that should not be taken lightly because if you trust too easily you will get burned.  I try to give people the benefit of doubt, to give them a chance to prove them self worthy of trust.

It is the best feeling in the world to know when you can fully trust someone to do right by you in your best interest and not do something behind your back without your knowledge.

When a person tells you they have your best interests at heart, it can be tremendously reassuring or it can be a nightmare straight out of a Lifetime movie where betrayal is a common occurrence.

Doing something in somebody’s best interest is a sticky matter because it can get twisted in what the other person believes is in your best interest, especially when money is involved.

Trust is a powerful idea on its own, but when you combine trust with money it can be a deadly combination.  It is also the ultimate test to determine whether or not you can fully trust a person, some people can justify anything when money is involved.

The problem is that some people are skilled with deception and lying.  Sometimes it takes a long time to see somebody’s true colors, which is bad because many times people will say, “Oh she is so sweet and kind, she would never do something like that!”

Some people are like chameleons; they turn a certain color only when it suits them.

For example, when someone is all friendly smiles and sweet talk around groups of people, but when the sun goes down, watch out!  The fangs are sharp and ready.

What you see on the surface of some people is only a front, a distorted view of what truly lies beneath.  They are also like light switches; they flip on and off their true self, when it is convenient for them.  Their bad side can be well hidden.

Trust is a difficult concept to master and the most significant component to all relationships among people.

Remember, to make sure you fully trust someone but don’t forget to love with all your heart.  The best advice is to treat others how you want to be treated.

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Words I Live By Series: Honesty

Honesty is the ultimate test as a human being because a lie can be more convenient than the truth.  When a woman asks a man, “Do you think I look fat in this dress?” If you are a smart guy and value your life you will say, “No, you look great, honey!”  No matter your opinion, you want your woman to feel good about her self so you make up a small lie to comfort her.

If you want to go on a short vacation from work you call your boss and tell them in a sick voice, “Hi John, I’m sorry but I cannot come in today because I’m feeling really sick.”  Another popular small lie goes like this, “I really like you and everything but we are just not working out. It’s not you, it’s me.”

The truth can be difficult to hear, when you speak your mind some people will attack you because they simply dislike or strongly disagree with your opinion but the truth will set you free.

The best relationships are those built on love, trust, and respect.  You cannot have one without the other.  When you love somebody you must respect them enough so they can trust you with their opinions and thoughts.  It is selfish to expect your loved ones to shackle up their true self just to please you.  Nobody wants to walk on eggshells to avoid your verbal attacks.

Sometimes small lies seem fine since they are not hurting another person physically or mentally but it is highly imperative that you be honest to the best of your ability, in all situations.  When you become too comfortable with lying, you start to get out of control with the lying and before you know it, you start believing your own lies.  Next comes having no problem cheating on your wife, girlfriend, family, friends, employer, taxes, etc.

You can only lie, cheat, or steal for so long until it starts catching up to you.  Before you end up in jail, seriously injured or dead you have to realize that the world does not revolve around you.

The worst lie you can tell is the one that does wrong by your family, friends, and significant other.  Why would you wrong those that you love and who put their trust in you?  Lies and deceit can only bring you temporary gratification until you end up alone and depressed.

Life becomes a significantly better place when you accept the honorable mission of honesty, which involves treating those around you with respect by accepting their differences of opinion, living together in a peaceful serenity, sharing thoughts freely without having your throat being ripped out.

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Words I Live By Series: Faith

Without faith we are lost souls without a compass to point us in the direction of our final destination.  Faith in yourself will put you on top of the world, combined with faith in God strengthens your heart and soul beyond your wildest dreams.

Faith in God is the most magnificent high there is in life; crack and alcohol will get you high on the fast track to the grave but beyond the grave is another story.  Accepting Christ into my heart and into my life, blessed my soul with inner strength to run marathons with my mind.  I was brought into this world flawed physically so that I can teach the world to appreciate the world around them, to come together in search of greater meaning and peace.

It is through my faith in Him that allows me to live my life with a higher sense of peace and understanding a step beyond minimalism; I can overcome any hardship that comes my way because God has my back.  My faith in Christ tested me many times throughout my life but deep down in my heart and soul, my faith in Our Lord and Savior has never waivered.

The strength of my faith in Our Lord is unmatched beyond words, even though it has been about ten to fifteen years since I went to church, being more worthwhile to strengthen your inner faith with God.  I do not consider myself religious because religion can be used as an institution for financial gain and control.

Going to church does not make you right with the Lord, it comes from within your heart.  A pastor or preacher praying for you and reciting scripture does not do the same justice as taking the time to pray to God directly, exploring His love on your own journey.  In the end, it is your personal relationship with Christ that matters.

I have never read the Bible, scripture has been read to me, but I never got around to reading the Bible.  Does that make me a bad Christian?  Maybe. Or, it could simply mean that I’m easily distracted.  I would like to read more about stories from the Bible because they are fascinating and you can learn a lot from the stories.

I’m by no means the perfect Christian nor do I aspire to be but I try to do right by others to the best of my ability.  Perfection cannot be attained as a human being; we can only accept each other’s harmless flaws and work together to make the world a better place.  I’m a perfectly flawed human being with a heart and God on my side.

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