Word of the Day: Trust

Trust is strong word that should not be taken lightly because if you trust too easily you will get burned.  I try to give people the benefit of doubt, to give them a chance to prove them self worthy of trust.

It is the best feeling in the world to know when you can fully trust someone to do right by you in your best interest and not do something behind your back without your knowledge.

When a person tells you they have your best interests at heart, it can be tremendously reassuring or it can be a nightmare straight out of a Lifetime movie where betrayal is a common occurrence.

Doing something in somebody’s best interest is a sticky matter because it can get twisted in what the other person believes is in your best interest, especially when money is involved.

Trust is a powerful idea on its own, but when you combine trust with money it can be a deadly combination.  It is also the ultimate test to determine whether or not you can fully trust a person, some people can justify anything when money is involved.

The problem is that some people are skilled with deception and lying.  Sometimes it takes a long time to see somebody’s true colors, which is bad because many times people will say, “Oh she is so sweet and kind, she would never do something like that!”

Some people are like chameleons; they turn a certain color only when it suits them.

For example, when someone is all friendly smiles and sweet talk around groups of people, but when the sun goes down, watch out!  The fangs are sharp and ready.

What you see on the surface of some people is only a front, a distorted view of what truly lies beneath.  They are also like light switches; they flip on and off their true self, when it is convenient for them.  Their bad side can be well hidden.

Trust is a difficult concept to master and the most significant component to all relationships among people.

Remember, to make sure you fully trust someone but don’t forget to love with all your heart.  The best advice is to treat others how you want to be treated.


Reader’s Choice: Topic is Drama Queens

The one reader comment I received for the Reader’s Choice topic wins for this blog post.

The comment I received was “Why do some women put all their efforts into being Drama Queens instead of…”

Now, this is a controversial topic!  Let me make it perfectly clear before we go any further because I value my life, which is that not all women are Drama Queens!

It is true that ‘some’ women are Drama Queens, but that applies to some guys as well.  No matter your sex, ethnicity, race, country of origin, etc., some people are addicted to drama.

If there is no drama in their life, they will create it because they thrive on it.  Drama Queens always need their drama fix.  Like drug addicts, when they run out of stash, they always want more.  The more drama that Drama Queens have in their lives, the better high they feel.

Drama Queens seem to love drama because they are Control Freaks, they are not happy with their lives until someone else is miserable as well.  Drama is just one method that some Control Freaks use from their arsenal of tricks.

Drama Queens use the drama in an attempt to control through manipulation.  When a Drama Queen is angry and doesn’t get their way, they will use drama as a tactic to manipulate your emotions to the point where you give in because you want to please them or shut them up.

Personally, I cannot stand drama or Drama Queens, I avoid it/them like the plague because life is too short to dwell on misery and make life a living hell.  Misery definitely loves company.

Drama Queens are like energy vampires; they drain all your energy from your body to suck the life out of you.

The only thing you can do to restrict the energy vampires from draining all the life out of you is to run in the opposite direction or limit your words you speak to them because Drama Queens/Control Freaks love to twist your words to use them against you.

The most difficult truth Drama Queens/Control Freaks cannot accept is that the world doesn’t revolve around them.  Life is about working with others to enjoy life together, not against each other.

The question completes with, “Why do some women put all their efforts into being Drama Queens instead of…”(working with others without an agenda).

The answer to that question is because they are addicted to selfishness and control.


Words I Live By Series: Honesty

Honesty is the ultimate test as a human being because a lie can be more convenient than the truth.  When a woman asks a man, “Do you think I look fat in this dress?” If you are a smart guy and value your life you will say, “No, you look great, honey!”  No matter your opinion, you want your woman to feel good about her self so you make up a small lie to comfort her.

If you want to go on a short vacation from work you call your boss and tell them in a sick voice, “Hi John, I’m sorry but I cannot come in today because I’m feeling really sick.”  Another popular small lie goes like this, “I really like you and everything but we are just not working out. It’s not you, it’s me.”

The truth can be difficult to hear, when you speak your mind some people will attack you because they simply dislike or strongly disagree with your opinion but the truth will set you free.

The best relationships are those built on love, trust, and respect.  You cannot have one without the other.  When you love somebody you must respect them enough so they can trust you with their opinions and thoughts.  It is selfish to expect your loved ones to shackle up their true self just to please you.  Nobody wants to walk on eggshells to avoid your verbal attacks.

Sometimes small lies seem fine since they are not hurting another person physically or mentally but it is highly imperative that you be honest to the best of your ability, in all situations.  When you become too comfortable with lying, you start to get out of control with the lying and before you know it, you start believing your own lies.  Next comes having no problem cheating on your wife, girlfriend, family, friends, employer, taxes, etc.

You can only lie, cheat, or steal for so long until it starts catching up to you.  Before you end up in jail, seriously injured or dead you have to realize that the world does not revolve around you.

The worst lie you can tell is the one that does wrong by your family, friends, and significant other.  Why would you wrong those that you love and who put their trust in you?  Lies and deceit can only bring you temporary gratification until you end up alone and depressed.

Life becomes a significantly better place when you accept the honorable mission of honesty, which involves treating those around you with respect by accepting their differences of opinion, living together in a peaceful serenity, sharing thoughts freely without having your throat being ripped out.